She doesn’t live for her writing
Stella is currently making all of her statements through action. For example, she speaks about herself in the third person so that she can understand exactly what she is doing. She thinks, “would an eight-year-old child understand her message? If not, it’s bad writing and it’s bad living and she should be stopped”. Her thoughts can be fairly loud.
Stella thinks that it is more important to live her life (and write about it later) rather than live life so that you can write about it later. Understand the difference? If you don’t, it is entirely probable that you and Stella simply cannot be friends. The best stories have good middles, never mind the beginning and the end.
We’re all broken
Reflection 1, 2, 3
This way, please.
Alice and the doll train wreck
Meetings
In my professional life, I am generally irritated by other people’s resistance to meetings. There are the grumblings, the eye-rollings, the sardonic jokes about the “meetings about meetings”, and recently, the somehow accepted convention of certain individuals having their own private meetings on their electronic devices, ie. text messaging, during a group meeting.
I like meetings. I declare meetings useful, valuable exercises, provided of course, that they are chaired, presented and attended with the intention of being useful and valuable.
A good quote about meetings:
I do not go to a meeting merely to give my own ideas. If that were all, I might write my fellow members a letter. But neither do I go simply to learn other people’s ideas. If that were all, I might ask each to write me a letter. I go to a meeting in order that all together we may create a group idea, an idea which will be better than all of our ideas added together. For this group idea will not be produced by any process of addition, but by the interpenetration of us all.
- Mary Parker Follett
I like the sound of that, ”the interpenetration of us all”. Ah. Satisfyingly simple. If only the meeters thought so.
Breaking with Taylorism, social worker and consultant Mary Parker Follett stresses the importance of employee participation. She is also known as the “mother” of Scientific Management.
Quiet
Stella has been a bit quiet. Soft. Fall. Into. Peace. Stella is building a nest. Imagine slowly cascading fabric blanketing your deepest wish. Stella likes to refer to herself in the third person. She is growing closer to herself.
How do you stay quiet? How do you gather and arrive at peace? When do you find the quickest route to calm?
Snow Lady | Stephen Cefalo | oil on panel
Making Out is Important
My dear wife (platonic, cute and single) said to me recently, “I just want to make out. Making out is really great and it’s all I need.” She later had a fantastic make out session with a like-minded fellow. I was happy for her.
When is the last time you had an amazing make out session? I mean, a really good one. Comfortable yet hot and tempting and gorgeous. Smooth. Heart-rate-increasing and somehow wild with breath and images. I plan to be making out healthily until the day I die.
One key factor to great make outs is humour. In this spirit, I direct you to How do you Make Out.com. Go. Immediately. There is something of value in there for everyone. I might have been high from making out but I laughed hard and long.
Julian’s Island of Dolls
I have a thing for creepy dolls. There. It’s out. When I was a small girl, it manifested itself in a small collection of vintage porcelain dolls. Nice ones. In pink floral dresses. Now, except for one I have inherited from my great grandmother, I do not own any dolls. I just like to look at photography and art featuring dolls, usually the creepy variety.
